Parenting together successfully after your divorce

Divorce is often most difficult for the youngest members of the family. This is why many Pennsylvania parents choose to parent together through a joint custody arrangement. Co-parenting is not always easy, especially for two adults who just went through a divorce. However, there are certain things you can keep in mind while drafting your parenting plan that will allow you to be successful and work together peacefully for the benefit of your children.

The foundation of any good parenting plan is keeping the best interests of the children as the primary goal. The custody and visitation schedule that you choose should make sense for your family long-term, which means you may have to set aside temporary emotions as you work through these matters. A strong parenting schedule will provide stability and security for your kids for years to come.

Points for consideration

Besides keeping the best interests of your children as the main goal, there are certain things you may want to consider that will help you make prudent and thoughtful choices that will lead to a strong parenting schedule. Some of these things include:

• Think about how your decisions will affect your kids. Putting yourself in their shoes will help you focus on choices that will help them through this time of transition and maintain strong relationships with both of you.
• Consider the logistics of the choices you make. You will need to consider your work schedule, your kids’ schedules and other factors that will impact how your plan will work.
• If your kids have special needs, they need to be a factor in your parenting plan. Both parents should help and support, and you can craft your plan in a way that allows you to address this specific issue.
• If your kids are old enough, you may want to think about involving them in your parenting plan. Ask their opinions, listen to their concerns and provide them an opportunity to have a say in their future.

A parenting plan is a major part of your post-divorce future. Even if you and your spouse are working amicably on the terms of your custody and visitation order, there is still benefit in working with an experienced attorney to ensure you make choices that will make sense for years to come. Before you agree to any terms, consider seeking an assessment of your case and explanation of your legal options before proceeding.